I’m Filipino, and my white boyfriend can sometimes be racist, although he claims not to be. When we started dating, I wasn’t as avidly against racism as I am now. Now, I try to correct him whenever he says something insensitive or dumb, but I never seem to win an argument because he’s just so fucking stubborn and will refuse to acknowledge so much of what I say.
Once, he informed me of a racial slur, then used it against me, and told me not to be offended. It went like this:
I love him to death, but sometimes I just don’t know what to do with him.
Sometimes I am just so fed up with his racist logic, but at the same time, fed up trying to explain to him how it’s wrong. And recently, more often than not, I just completely dismiss his remarks to avoid frustration…