26 February
02:23
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Posted by svartskalleroy

A(nonymous) - Submission

I’m Filipino, and my white boyfriend can sometimes be racist, although he claims not to be. When we started dating, I wasn’t as avidly against racism as I am now. Now, I try to correct him whenever he says something insensitive or dumb, but I never seem to win an argument because he’s just so fucking stubborn and will refuse to acknowledge so much of what I say.

Once, he informed me of a racial slur, then used it against me, and told me not to be offended. It went like this:

He told me of the term “buk buk” and said how it’s a slur originating from how Tagalog sounds to other people. Later that day, he asked me what “flower” is in Tagalog, and when I said “bulaklak,” he exclaimed, “Wow, it’s true! What are you, a chicken?”
I then told him to shut up.
He replied, “Oh don’t even ACT offended.”
I was ready to flip shit, and when I did, he threw the excuses of “It’s only offensive because you think it is” and “It’s alright because it’s based on fact” at me. I ended the conversation there.

I love him to death, but sometimes I just don’t know what to do with him.

Sometimes I am just so fed up with his racist logic, but at the same time, fed up trying to explain to him how it’s wrong. And recently, more often than not, I just completely dismiss his remarks to avoid frustration…

#submission      #racism      #philippines      #pin@y      #asian      #southeast asia      #pacific islander     
  1. infinitelyartistic reblogged this from bitterseafigtree
  2. lalazarda said: “it’s only offensive because you think it is.” what kinda logic is that? And why do you love him again?
  3. bitterseafigtree reblogged this from sara-huynh and added:
    Basically. I got one of my friends here to understand how fucked up somethings he was saying were by making a ton of...
  4. ebenezerjonessdiary said: It sounds like he doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than that!
  5. spider-xan said: Obviously it’s up to you in the end as it’s your life and relationship, but yeah, it sounds like it may be a good idea to consider if someone like this is really worth your time and well-being if he doesn’t seem to respect you, unfortunately.
  6. herebedragonsandpoc reblogged this from angryasiangirlsunited and added:
    I think you really need to figure out if this guy is worth your time. In order to have a healthy relationship between...
  7. totallytaba reblogged this from angryasiangirlsunited and added:
    Honestly, it’s really hard to date someone/be in a relationship with someone who’s white. My ex is thoughtful, honest,...
  8. baoshanda reblogged this from angryasiangirlsunited and added:
    If you don’t mind my asking, why are you still with him?This is a serious question that needs serious consideration.
  9. paradelle reblogged this from sara-huynh and added:
    “Cousin fucker” omg I’m taking this thanks!
  10. potzillaroar said: Dump him and find someone who isn’t a racist. You will be happier.
  11. sara-huynh reblogged this from angryasiangirlsunited and added:
    My best friend is white and he’s like this. I actually got him to cut back on the racist shit… by going “reverse racist”...
  12. janinadentata said: Dump the loser because if my boyfriend who is white, disrespected my culture and heritage. I would kick his racist ass to the curb. You deserve better than a guy who thinks he has a free pass to make racist joke because he is dating a WOC.
  13. reverend-green said: to whoever submitted this: i feel your pain. my boyfriend is white, but of latin descent. since he passes for white he can sometimes be unaware of his white privilege. if you ever want to talk feel free to hit up my inbox/email (seen in my about me)!
  14. angryasiangirlsunited posted this